I think I may have unintentionally insulted or been insensitive to a lot of women last week. Part of my personality is that I'm not one to mince words. Which can be a good quality, but at times it can also come off as judgmental.
I posted an article about new scientific experiments on unborn children, that I wholeheartedly did not agree with. However, I think I was a bit cavalier about the pain that is caused by not being able to naturally conceive a child.
I am sorry if I hurt anyone dealing with the loss or inability to have a child.
My intention of shedding light on this story was not to insult anyone, but to say that I believe we have strayed SO far away from the natural order of things that we can not see the future ramifications. I do feel that ALL people should be able to become loving parents to a child, if they so choose, and I can see how my thoughts may have been harsh.
Starting down a path towards healthy or more holistic living is not easy. As moms, its hard not compare yourself to what others are doing, wearing, and feeding their kids---especially in the holistic community.
I try to live my life as authentically as possible. Which sometimes means admitting I make mistakes (see above) and that I am NOT the poster mom for "Holistic Living", but I do my best.
Yes, sometimes my best is feeding my family a slew of processed foods because I was exhausted from running around and couldn't fathom boiling a pot of water, much less preparing a nutritious and delicious meal.
Sometimes that means forgetting my eco-friendly reusable water bottle and buying disposable ones that will, regrettably, clog up our landfills.
And sometimes that means, although I KNOW the overall benefits of extended breastfeeding I want to bind my lady lumps to my chest with duck tape if it means I don't have to be groped by a 19 month old in the middle of Target.
Suffice to say, I am not perfect. But there is an empowering freedom in admitting that. I don't know every homeopathic remedy or grow enough food in my garden to feed my family for a year, but I do the best I can do.
This is why I created Granolaville, so that no matter where you are on your holistic journey you could find comfort in knowing there is a community of people out there just like you----looking for a natural way, but sometimes falling short.
Accepting that we ALL are perfectly imperfect allows us to show kindness to ourselves and to others when we want to jump to conclusions or place judgement.
SO this week while celebrating the freedoms and independence that July 4th represents, give yourself the permission to let go of the need for perfection in whatever area of your life that needs it. Try your best, admit your mistakes and move on.
Humbled in Granolaville,